I’m starting to fall in love with somebody in my country.
I think about how many times I’ve had conversations with my mother and how many times she’s asked me to really think about the pros and cons this type of relationship can give to my life. It’s not easy to love someone and only see her every six months. Also, it’s not easy because I’m shy about this topic, but for me open communication with my parents is important.
After many conversations with some friends, we concluded that dating someone long distance is one of the most difficult things you will ever experience.
“It’s really difficult because you always want to be with her and see her,” said Jaime Soto, a sophomore from Spain.
For my family, the idea of dating someone in my country is simply ridiculous. They think it’s better to have a girlfriend of another nationality than Colombian. But, for me, it’s not a crazy idea. This is because the people in south America think that having a partner from the U.S. or a European country gives you better opportunities of success and not getting stuck in the same life that your family have experienced.
But you never know if you will fall in love with someone, and for me it doesn’t matter if she is from Colombia or another country. The only thing I want is to love someone and to try to build something with her.
The first time I started thinking about having a long-distance relationship was when I lived in Argentina. At that time, I was talking with a girl that I liked. We started to think about how we could manage the situation because, at 16 years old, it’s difficult to manage a situation like that because you need to be mature and understand the world better.
So, what do you really need to be happy in this crazy situation? Communication is one of the most important things because you need to know what is going on with your partner and how she/he feels. Another important thing is planning dates and trying to make the days shorter until you see each other.
“The magic you can’t put in person, you try it another way,” said Soto.
I know we will have a lot of difficult moments because we’re starting the relationship and we’ve been separated for a month. But I truly believe this can work if both of us do our part. This isn’t easy, but I think we are managing everything well. Honestly, I never would have considered putting myself in this situation if I hadn’t met her.
